Regretfully, I have not posted a blog in a long time. My husband has been in increasingly poor health, and then in a nursing home quite far from home. In late February, he passed away. As you can imagine, this has been an intense time for me. 
I’ve always wondered what it must be like to lose a spouse, since I have seen it happen many times. Now I know, (kind of).
The hardest thing for me, being left here in the physical realm, is the way people who die just vanish from the Earth. This may sound strange (of course they vanish), and is certainly not rational, but at times like these it is not the rational that leaps out at you. Emotionally, I simply can’t believe he’s gone.
So much of the pain of death involves not knowing what has really happened to loved ones, and if they are still present in some form, somewhere.
In this respect, being able to access the energy realm is a real blessing. I am finding that being able to make energetic contact after death (even for just a short time) softens much of the unbearable grief I hear others talking about.
Energetic communication allows you to make contact with those who have passed over (if you choose to develop this ability). In my case, I was able to connect with my husband shortly after he passed.
My husband was 82 when he died, incapacitated and in a lot of pain. When people pass over, they lose their physical body, but their energetic body is intact. After death, this energetic body takes on the appearance and the energy of the person in their prime, in my husband’s case, about 35 or 40.
Although I knew this, I was frankly unprepared for the vibrant, energetic, optimistic, joyful person I encountered, so incredibly different from when I had last seen him in his physical body. But it wasn’t just his youthful energy and exuberance that amazed me. The wisdom and compassion that comes with age was also part of the mix and blended perfectly.
He was delighted to be out of pain, and surprised and amazed that he was still conscious and had all his mental faculties intact. (He was a scientist and didn’t believe he would be conscious after death.) He was also surrounded by incredibly bright light. I got the impression it was not a light from elsewhere, but a radiance that was the result of his own spiritual state of supreme happiness.
A few days later at his Celebration of Life, a friend who is also adept at energetic communication told me that he had been in touch with her as well. He gave her messages for me and each of his children, and also one for her. He told her that people who were able to connect with dead people had a certain kind of light or energy beam coming off of them that is visible to those who have passed over. (So like my scientist husband to focus on the details!)
His message to my step-daughter was particularly touching. Shortly before he died, she told him a story about a woman who asked a dying loved one to send a message when she arrived in Heaven. This family particularly loved cardinals, so after the person died, a cardinal insistently pecked at the window. When the woman went outside to see what was the matter, the cardinal flew right to her, perched on her shoulder, wouldn’t go away, and allowed itself to be petted and fussed over. There was even a Facebook video showing the little bird’s loving persistence and the woman’s emotional reaction.
My husband told my friend to tell his daughter, “little bird”. My friend had no idea what that meant. She thought it might be a nick name. But my step-daughter knew exactly what it meant and told my friend the story about the cardinal.
At first I wondered why he contacted my friend to give her messages, rather than give them to me. However, it only took a few minutes to figure out the answer. Energetic communication is very subtle and can become easily distorted by emotion. Obviously, it was hard for me to keep emotion out of my connection with him. These messages were so sweet and so perfect, that had he given them to me, I would have thought I was making them up. I also knew about the story of the cardinal, since I had been in the room when it was told. It would not have had the same impact, had it come from me.
When I first contacted my husband, he told me he wanted to stick around for his Celebration of Life. After the service, I connected with him again, and he was ready to move on. I got the feeling that I would not be able to connect again. (My friend also said that when those who passed over contacted her, they gave her messages and then were gone. She was not able to contact them again.) This intuitive knowledge made me very sad, but I knew that more contact was probably not appropriate in that he had things that he wanted to do, and so did I. We both needed to get on with our lives even though they were now separate. So, I said goodbye through my tears.
Even though he is no longer by my side, the knowledge that he is joyful, pain free, and excited about this next stage of life is unbelievable comforting. I miss him terribly, but knowing he’s in a really good place makes all the difference in the world.
You can learn more about the energy realm in my book, “It’s All About Energy: Adventures in Expanded Reality”, found on Amazon, and on my website, www.transformationalexpansion.com.